Make Time For Relationship Renewal

making love at midnight, in the dunes of the Cape”

Dreambounded Leadership isn’t just for business. It is a mindset and as a result, a way of life. That means you bring the same energy that creates business adventures  into everything you do.

One challenge that sometimes comes up for entrepreneurs is that they thrive in their business environment of new projects and possibilities, and when they go home their significant relationship can, as the years go by, begin to feel less stimulating. Usually those significant relationships begin with lots of energy when everything is fresh and new. Over time, however, the relationship can begin to feel somewhat stale especially when, as an entrepreneur, the work day is filled with energy and challenge.

While it is often true that entrepreneurs like the stability of a partner who is not involved in their everyday craziness, it can also be a good idea to consciously be aware of whether that significant relationship is beginning to feel boring. Rupert Holmes wrote a great song that points to that issue and suggests some ideas to perk things up a little.

I will let the song speak for itself (below are the lyrics and a link in case you want to listen to it).

Escape (The Pina Colada Song)
by Rupert Holmes

I was tired of my lady, we’d been together too long
Like a worn-out recording, of a favorite song
So while she lay there sleeping, I read the paper in bed
And in the personals column, there was this letter I read

“If you like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain
If you’re not into yoga, if you have half a brain
If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape
I’m the love that you’ve looked for, write to me, and escape”

I didn’t think about my lady, I know that sounds kind of mean
But me and my old lady, had fallen into the same old dull routine
So I wrote to the paper, took out a personal ad
And though I’m nobody’s poet, I thought it wasn’t half bad

“Yes, I like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain
I’m not much into health food, I am into champagne
I’ve got to meet you by tomorrow noon, and cut through all this red tape
At a bar called O’Malley’s, where we’ll plan our escape”

So I waited with high hopes, then she walked in the place
I knew her smile in an instant, I knew the curve of her face
It was my own lovely lady, and she said, “Oh, it’s you”
And we laughed for a moment, and I said, “I never knew”

“That you liked Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain
And the feel of the ocean, and the taste of champagne
If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape
You’re the lady I’ve looked for, come with me, and escape”

“If you like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain
If you’re not into yoga, if you have half a brain
If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape
I’m the love that you’ve looked for, come with me, and escape”

Listen to the song on YouTube: Escape

One thought: if your partner is not a high risk taker like you, then you might try to find something that is simple and non-threatening to your partner. Just look for simple changes in the relationship routine to spice things up a little. Don’t limit your natural Dreambounded Leadership to your work – bring it into everything you love to do.

How do you find time to renew your relationship? You don’t – you choose to do it, and then you make the time!

Comments and ideas are always welcome!

  1. Kristin LortieKristin Lortie04-10-2017

    I lover this post, Ted. It came at a great time during my morning coffee and reflections. As I read the words I realized I knew the song but hadn’t heard the story. The thought that came to me is that the same idea can apply to my other significant relationships, too. May it be a good time for renewal of those we love to love.

  2. ConnieConnie04-10-2017

    Love, love, love your last sentence! Great article and great reminder. Thanks, Ted.

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